BECOMING

Norms+Rules vs. Individuality

ideological conflict for Meaning

In a conflict for Meaning, both characters want to become themselves. They need each other to rediscover the lost aspects of their individuality. But as they feel so attracted to each other, they believe they can’t live on without their «missing half ». They become dependent and try to impose their way of life on each other to make sure they really are made from the same wood and their relationship means the same to each of them.
SELBSTBESTIMMUNG TOLERANZ KONTROLLE IDENTITÄT ÜBERLEBEN ERFOLG innerer Konflikt – STATUS innerer Konflikt – Wahrheit innerer Konflikt – Macht innerer Konflikt – Frieden
Adventure
Fairy Tale

STATUS

both want
Meaning
+ Tolerance

TRUTH
Play a Role or Do one's Job,
Gain Access, Belong to a Group

DESIRE

Community

WANT
to have a
Safe Space

PREACHER

Adventure

WANT

DREAMER

Fairy Tale

WANT
Find Love or a Home, Be liked
Be believed in, Be equal

DESIRE

Congeniality

WANT
to save their
Frozen Love
feelsUnloved
actsSelf-Important
fearsOppression / Betrayal
avoidsBreaking Rules, Intimacy

LET IT GO
break their rules
lose controll, admit flaws
show humanity

NEED
NEED
Insecurefeels
Self-Righteousacts
Judgment / Rejectionfears
Commitment, Relationshipavoids

STOP LYING
accept being rejected
take final decisions
show helplessness
The Preacher wants others to become like him, yet he has not found a way to be happy and content with his life yet either. The Dreamer wants to inspire everyone to live out their unique individuality like him, although his own way seems like a dead end.
Conformity blocks Congeniality The Preacher thinks if he can teach others to live a meaningful life, it will give meaning to his own life. He knows rules+social expectations but doesn’t know how to live on his own terms, so he’s attracted to people who do. Both want to be like the other,
yet can’t let go of their habits + backgrounds.		 Individualism blocks Community The Dreamer wants to overcome any unnecessary social constraints. A meaningful life to him is to resist any traditional conventions and yet find a way to make a living that sets him free from other’s boring expectations.
Both characters want to appeal to each other. They seek a confirmation to their identities, but they are not aware of the roles they are playing. Both want to find their home in each other, yet struggle to find a common language. While the Preacher represents a civilised hierarchical system, the dreamer feels locked out from this regulated world. Although he represents a more natural world order, he feels threatened by it’s brutal anarchy and fights for a world of equal access where everybody can be whatever he wants to become. The Preacher on the other hand wants to conform everybody to his own believes, yet he is not aware of that and just wants to seem as individual and strong-willed as the Dreamer.
MEANING Meeting everyones expectations The Preacher wants to reconcile his own desires+his duties. He finally wants to be seen as individual as well beyond the persona his role imposes on him. BOTH WANT
MEANING 		MEANING Living up to one’s own dreams The Dreamer wants to show everyone that his way was meaningful + valuable all along and that he deserves a place in the community like everybody else.
While the dreamer tries to live up to his stories to show how strong he is, the Preacher tries to hide his weakness by convincing others that they need him. Ironically both characters see each other as the stronger one and try to impress the other by rejecting + hiding their own weakness. It’s a deliberate confusion.
TOLERANCE Conventions + Hierarchy The Preacher thinks Tolerance means equal surrender of personal freedoms under a common agreement. Tolerance thus never can be absolute, and needs to be governed by some higher-order laws. It can only extend to those who accept these higher « universal » laws. BOTH BELIEVE THEY NEED
TOLERANCE		 TOLERANCE Individuality + Equality Tolerance for the Dreamer means equal access without discrimination and thus. unconditional acceptance of every possible way of life. No one should be forced to live life according to anyone else’s rules. Every way is equally good. Tolerance is universal or it isn’t at all.
Both struggle to change their fate and social standing. And both forget that their own impotence only comes from their voluntary restraint under their character + it’s respective regime. Only when they recognise each other as allies, they can join forces to make the impossible possible, liberate each other from their social constraints and create their own new meaning together.