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KNOWINGAcceptance vs. Possessivenesspersonal conflict for Fulfillment
In a conflict for Fulfillment,two characters are dependent on each other to maintain their happiness. Both draw their sense of identity from a shared story of a grandiose future they could create together Secretly they both want to be this story’s hero, but they pretend to work together for the good of everybody. They can’t accept that their story only has one hero and their misery comes from staying true to the roles they assign to each other.
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express feelings
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STOP LYING
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| The Fan wants to leave old trauma behind, and follow his idol to find his true place in life. | The Star wants to keep his place in the spotlight and live up to his overblown dreams and promises. | ||||||||||||||||||||
| Pride blocks Congeniality The Fan wants to be seen for who he is, but he can’t face his smallness, let go and grow naturally to become himself. Instead he falls in love with someone who is how he would like to be and stays stuck in an inferior position of admiration, wanting to become his idol. |
Both want to define the other, but keep themselves thus dependent too. |
Individualism blocks Authenticity The Star doesn’t want to fail. He fascinates his audience and hopes no-one ever sees trough his masquerade. He thinks his fans need him, but it’s the other way around. Trapped in old roles and empty promises, he can’t admit his true mediocrity. The show must go on. | |||||||||||||||||||
| The two characters are stuck in a shared story. They created their mutual myth together, because they needed it to overcome their sense of inferiority. Now they are dependent on the fulfilment of their fairy tale. But no one dares to admit defeat and break their assigned character. The Star is elevated by the Fan to his position in the spotlight, and the Fan still hopes to become elevated by his devotion to the Star as well one day. But without support from the believe of the Fan the Star couldn’t even keep up the appearance of his glamorous identity. | |||||||||||||||||||||
| FULFILLMENT Self-Love through Love The Fan wants to make his idol love him back: He sacrifices his own talent to support his Star’s dream and make his own life meaningful by possessing him. | BOTH WANT FULFILLMENT |
FULFILLMENT Grandiosity coming true The Star wants all his dreams to come true. No matter what. He thrives on other people’s approval and admiration and leaves them if they question him. | |||||||||||||||||||
| The Identity of the Star has become a lie. And to keep it from crashing down, he is ready to violently defend his illusions by imprisoning the Fan, lying to him and blaming him for his own failure, that he claims to be their mutual defeat. And it works, because the Fan actually is at fault too: Because he believed in an illusion, despite his heart could have known better at least for some time. He still wanted to believe. He wanted to posses the Star, and thus keep command over his own identity. | |||||||||||||||||||||
| IDENTITY internal + eternal The Fan thinks of identity as a fixed essence of his character. He sees himself as incapable of achieving extraordinary things, but he’d like to and admires people, who do for their talent. | BOTH BELIEVE THEY NEED IDENTITY |
IDENTITY individual + dependent The Star believes he can create his identity individually. One is not defined by the past or facts, but can re-invent one’s character over and over again, as long as someone believes in it. | |||||||||||||||||||
| The Fan still needs the Star’s lies as a counterbalance to his idea of his own unfulfilled identity. It’s their belief that they could know who they are, that imprisons them to each other. Hidden from the others eyes, both suffer, because neither can live truthfully. They have to grow up, let go of their illusions and accept the unknown to go on + and find their way, mutually or not. | |||||||||||||||||||||